3 Things I Learned Going on Trips with Smart Phone Travellers.

 

3 Things I Learned Going on Trips with Smart Phone Travellers.

 

1 It’s a holiday, don’t plan on working.

I had grand plans to record videos but once in holiday mode, even checking emails was a chore.  Enjoy your holiday or trip, there is plenty of time to work, before and after.

 

2 Trips are about enjoyment not money.

Shopping at food markets and travelling by local buses enriched our experience. Surprisingly, £20 a day was doable and reminded me of my younger days, backpacking.

 

3 Set up a data allowance on your phone before you go.

Which direction? Was quickly answered using google maps and so convenient.  Plus being able to check what’s on, opening times and to let people know where you are.

Incredibly handy.

 

Bonus tip – only take the essentials

And check airline luggage rules, as they keep changing!

Have a wonderful summer.

Jenny

Photo is Lake Cuber in the mountains of Majorca


Fight or Flight with Money?

Fight or Flight Response

 

I thought people don’t normally consider the Fight or Flight response and money?

It is all about the resources, we feel we don’t have and feel threatened about.

 

So that call from the bank?

We ignore it or go, right, I am going round there to deal with it now – which is flight or fight.

 

What is the flight or fight response?  I have a little sum up here, as I think we all know.

 

“Stress is a biological and psychological response, experienced on encountering a threat, we feel we do not have the resources to deal with. ” Quote and picture by Simple Psychology

 

When you get in a life threatening situation, you do need to take action and that’s why we have this wonderful thing.

 

But when it is your ego that is in danger of dying and not your physical body, we need to come up with a new strategy, particularly when it comes to money.

 

I think the most extreme thing I have ever seen someone do in a Fight mode is buy a house they have never seen at an auction.  They just got carried away with the auction – it was like “I must have it”.  Fortunately it was only £60,000 but I can’t imagine what state that house was in?

 

On the Flight response, I have been round to people’s offices who have years’ worth of unopened bank statements, they can’t bear it and are “la, la, la, la, la”..

 

Bank statement, balances, paperwork – la, la, la, la, la, with their fingers in their ears, that’s the flight response.

 

When we get stressed, we find it very difficult to deal with, if we deal with it at all.

Often we don’t make great decisions.

 

I wanted to draw your attention to this fact, so you can make better decisions. 

 

Be in control of your money, rather than have this human response be in control.

 

Everything can wait one minute, nothing needs to be done that second.

We can all wait a minute, especially when it comes to the ego. 

 

If you know you are making a decision and you are hot, sweaty and panicky about it.

 

Take a minute and ask yourself “am I doing this because I am ‘fighting’ or ‘flighting’ or am I doing this, because I have thought this through and it really is a sensible thing to do.

We are not going to go into the relaxation response, which is the best way to deal with it.

 

This is the awareness stage, to start noticing you are doing it.

 

Then breathe, long slow breaths to calm down your heart rate and lungs and relax in the chair.

That’s where we are going to end up, nicely relaxed about money.

 

 

 


Relaxing Tax Returns

 

Relaxing Tax Returns

 

I am always looking for ways to feel good around money.

 

One of the surprising ways I have found is, yes I know, doing my tax return in April.

 

One of my clients turned up and she was so relaxed and calm.

 

I asked her “how come?” and she said “I have just done my tax return.” and I thought yes, I would like that feeling.

 

I have done my tax return in April ever since.

 

Now you could be one of the half a million people who wait until the very last day, 31st January, to do your return.

 

Or one of the 2000 people who do it on Christmas Day – not sure about that.

 

Personally, I like to get to the end of the tax year, gather everything together and do my figures.

 

Then start the new tax year fresh.

 

Not worrying I am going to find a receipt in 18 months’ time and trying to think ‘what on earth was that for?’.

 

Sometimes I pay at the same time, if it is a small amount.

 

Mostly I put a few reminders in my diary, not to spend the money at Christmas and to pay in the New Year.

 

Thank you for watching.

 

 


Intuition versus Logic in Business?

Intuition versus Logic in Business?

If you want to be wildly successful, in the business of your dreams, you do actually need both.

 

Intuition is motivation, inspiration, passion and it all sounds very exciting.

 

Logic is work-ability, day to day practicality but it also ensures you make money.

 

Not so exciting for many people!

 

In fact, we tend to go one way of the other.

 

If you do want to be wildly successful,

then focus your time and money on both intuition and logic.

 

For support, contact me, Jenny@jennybracelin.co.uk

 

Thank you for watching.

 


What is Coaching and Why Does it Work?

What is Coaching and Why Does it Work?

 

Essentially, it is just a conversation, but it is the quality of that conversation which produces the results.

 

There are so many definitions and types of coaching, it can be very confusing, even for me as a coach.

You have ‘performance coaching’ in sports to ‘non directional coaching’ in therapy.
Everyone seems to have their own view about what it is and how you do it.

 

Personally, I tend to use ‘transformational coaching’. That means I combine both the head and the heart, to achieve the desired result.

 

The International Coaching Federation (ICF) have their own definition and it is not too ‘management speak’ so I am going to read it out.

 

“Partnering with clients, in a thought-provoking and creative process, that inspires them to maximise, personal and professional potential.”

 

It does sound good, doesn’t it.

 

So why does it work?

 

Well I think there are lots of reasons for it working.

The particular ones I want to talk about today are:

 

Often we are inside our own head and can’t see ourselves.

A coach provides that external perspective

 

The other thing, is when is the last time, that someone really deeply listened to what you are saying, with a view to helping you, as opposed to replying or putting their point of view across?

 

The one key skill that all coaches agree on is that listening, particularly deep listening, is the most important thing.

 

Other skills they tend to have are ‘reflecting back’ so you hear what you say fresh, or asking questions.

 

Innocent questions because they don’t know you, to get you to the core of something.

Or challenging questions to stimulate a response.

They also hold you accountable, supportive, bring their expertise to a coaching session and I thing the one thing you perhaps don’t think of, is coaches are generally your biggest fan club.

 

They want you to succeed more than anyone, because they often become coaches to make a difference.

 

Coaching is essentially an opportunity, a modern opportunity, to spend time really looking at you and your life, as the main focus, and that’s why it works.

 

Thank you very much for watching.

 

 


Are You Missing the Obvious?

Are you missing the obvious?

 

It can be hard to see ourselves.

Sometimes we struggle on, doing what we think we ‘should’ do, rather than actually what we want to do.

This is often obvious to everyone else but ourselves.

 

I had a client,

let’s call him Dave, he was a massage therapist.

He was kind caring and compassionate, wonderful strengths in a massage therapist.

 

He also had a lot of tattoos on his head, face, neck and forearms, not necessarily a problem, except for they were very, very scary and dark.

He felt that was a weakness, when he had gone round the local beauty salons trying to get work.

There was nothing he could do about it because he had so many and also because he felt they were part of him and part of his journey through life.

 

So I said to him

“Why did you start your business?”

He said

“Because I had a massage in prison, which really helped me overcome my addictions.  What I really want to do is work in prisons.”

 

I thought, yes actually, that is obvious, you would work very well in prisons.

Your scary tattoos would actually be a strength, as opposed to a weakness.

Yet he hadn’t done so because he just felt he needed some experience in beauty salons first!

 

Once I said no, just go for the prisons.

He did and got work in the local prisons and I am sure he made a huge difference to the inmates there.

 

So what are you missing that is obvious, perhaps to everyone else, but not yet to yourself?

 

Thank you for watching.

 

 


Why Did You Start Your Business

 

Why did you start your business?

 

When you have been in business a while, you get asked that question a lot and you tend to have a short, pat answer, that you give to people.

But it can be worth considering because generally people are asking for 2 reasons.

 

Firstly to find out if what inspired you would inspire them, because they want to start a business.

 

Often they are just trying to find out more about you and your business.

To find out where you are coming from

 

To see whether there is a compatibility between them as a customer and you as a supplier.

 

If that is the case,

 

it can be worth incorporating it as part of your story in your about me or in your promotional literature. 

 

Maybe not in the original format but with some discussion with a friend or a partner, working out an inspiring explanation for customers.

 

But actually what I wanted to talk about today is the unrefined version, the raw version, the version that made you go

 

“I’m going to start a business” – that one.

 

So whether is was a career decision, to solve a problem, to make a difference.  Or out of desire, passion or just because?

 

It is worth capturing that feeling, the words, the decision.

 

So when you need motivation, inspiration or trying to make a business decision about which direction to go, having that held in your heart or on paper can be really useful.

 

It is worth bearing in that mind as your business progresses,

 

you might need to update and change it as you have solved that original problem.

but having something you are really passionate about or that moves you is worth hanging on to.

 

So let me ask you

Why did you start your business?