What is Coaching and Why Does it Work?
Essentially, it is just a conversation, but it is the quality of that conversation which produces the results.
There are so many definitions and types of coaching, it can be very confusing, even for me as a coach.
You have ‘performance coaching’ in sports to ‘non directional coaching’ in therapy.
Everyone seems to have their own view about what it is and how you do it.
Personally, I tend to use ‘transformational coaching’. That means I combine both the head and the heart, to achieve the desired result.
The International Coaching Federation (ICF) have their own definition and it is not too ‘management speak’ so I am going to read it out.
“Partnering with clients, in a thought-provoking and creative process, that inspires them to maximise, personal and professional potential.”
It does sound good, doesn’t it.
So why does it work?
Well I think there are lots of reasons for it working.
The particular ones I want to talk about today are:
Often we are inside our own head and can’t see ourselves.
A coach provides that external perspective
The other thing, is when is the last time, that someone really deeply listened to what you are saying, with a view to helping you, as opposed to replying or putting their point of view across?
The one key skill that all coaches agree on is that listening, particularly deep listening, is the most important thing.
Other skills they tend to have are ‘reflecting back’ so you hear what you say fresh, or asking questions.
Innocent questions because they don’t know you, to get you to the core of something.
Or challenging questions to stimulate a response.
They also hold you accountable, supportive, bring their expertise to a coaching session and I thing the one thing you perhaps don’t think of, is coaches are generally your biggest fan club.
They want you to succeed more than anyone, because they often become coaches to make a difference.
Coaching is essentially an opportunity, a modern opportunity, to spend time really looking at you and your life, as the main focus, and that’s why it works.
Thank you very much for watching.