What is Coaching and Why Does it Work?

What is Coaching and Why Does it Work?

 

Essentially, it is just a conversation, but it is the quality of that conversation which produces the results.

 

There are so many definitions and types of coaching, it can be very confusing, even for me as a coach.

You have ‘performance coaching’ in sports to ‘non directional coaching’ in therapy.
Everyone seems to have their own view about what it is and how you do it.

 

Personally, I tend to use ‘transformational coaching’. That means I combine both the head and the heart, to achieve the desired result.

 

The International Coaching Federation (ICF) have their own definition and it is not too ‘management speak’ so I am going to read it out.

 

“Partnering with clients, in a thought-provoking and creative process, that inspires them to maximise, personal and professional potential.”

 

It does sound good, doesn’t it.

 

So why does it work?

 

Well I think there are lots of reasons for it working.

The particular ones I want to talk about today are:

 

Often we are inside our own head and can’t see ourselves.

A coach provides that external perspective

 

The other thing, is when is the last time, that someone really deeply listened to what you are saying, with a view to helping you, as opposed to replying or putting their point of view across?

 

The one key skill that all coaches agree on is that listening, particularly deep listening, is the most important thing.

 

Other skills they tend to have are ‘reflecting back’ so you hear what you say fresh, or asking questions.

 

Innocent questions because they don’t know you, to get you to the core of something.

Or challenging questions to stimulate a response.

They also hold you accountable, supportive, bring their expertise to a coaching session and I thing the one thing you perhaps don’t think of, is coaches are generally your biggest fan club.

 

They want you to succeed more than anyone, because they often become coaches to make a difference.

 

Coaching is essentially an opportunity, a modern opportunity, to spend time really looking at you and your life, as the main focus, and that’s why it works.

 

Thank you very much for watching.

 

 


Are You Missing the Obvious?

Are you missing the obvious?

 

It can be hard to see ourselves.

Sometimes we struggle on, doing what we think we ‘should’ do, rather than actually what we want to do.

This is often obvious to everyone else but ourselves.

 

I had a client,

let’s call him Dave, he was a massage therapist.

He was kind caring and compassionate, wonderful strengths in a massage therapist.

 

He also had a lot of tattoos on his head, face, neck and forearms, not necessarily a problem, except for they were very, very scary and dark.

He felt that was a weakness, when he had gone round the local beauty salons trying to get work.

There was nothing he could do about it because he had so many and also because he felt they were part of him and part of his journey through life.

 

So I said to him

“Why did you start your business?”

He said

“Because I had a massage in prison, which really helped me overcome my addictions.  What I really want to do is work in prisons.”

 

I thought, yes actually, that is obvious, you would work very well in prisons.

Your scary tattoos would actually be a strength, as opposed to a weakness.

Yet he hadn’t done so because he just felt he needed some experience in beauty salons first!

 

Once I said no, just go for the prisons.

He did and got work in the local prisons and I am sure he made a huge difference to the inmates there.

 

So what are you missing that is obvious, perhaps to everyone else, but not yet to yourself?

 

Thank you for watching.

 

 


Can’t Face your Figures? Write a Letter to Money Instead.

Can’t face your figures? Write a letter to money instead.

Yes, we are all human and there are times where we all think ‘ugh’ I can’t face doing my figures or my bookkeeping, or money just got on top of you.

So today what I wanted to do, was provide you with a short, quick tool to use, when you get into that place.

Yes, it is only being human and by doing writing instead of figures, hopefully, it accesses a different part of your brain.

Now many of you might have written a letter to money before but what I am suggesting today, is to just pick one topic to keep it short and sweet.

Why can’t I get on with my books?
Why do I always spend more than I earn?
Why do I … whatever it is that is your thing?

Just pick one topic and write a letter.

Now what you want to do is write it like you are writing to a dear friend.

A dear friend that is never going to read it so you can be as honest as you like!

It is a great place to have a good rant or get anything off your chest that you feel will help.

You can just take a sheet of paper and write it out, do it on your computer. Or if you want some headings to help you along, I have prepared some.

If you go to my website www.jennybracelin.co.uk/dearmoney you will find the headings and the explanations.

The headings for your Dear Money letter are:

I am doing…, so it is Dear Money and then say what you are doing.
I am feeling…and say what you are feeling.
Ask what can you do…what can you do?
Dealing with buts, and’s and I want more’s… they will come up so have that as a topic.
What can I do now? You don’t have to do it but ask the question.
End with a Thank You, that is always a good way to end.

So that is my ‘get yourself unstuck’ little tool so thank you very much for watching.

Next week we are back to practical stuff and it is a Live Q & A on Facebook at 12 noon GMT on Friday 3rd February 2017.

We are talking about now you have done your books, or now you have done your accounts, what now? You can just stick them in a drawer but we are going to provide you with some other useful suggestions.
Thank you for watching.


The Most Simple Book Keeping Course Ever

Welcome to The Most Simple Book Keeping Course Ever

So, why do your books?

I can almost hear you say “because we have to” and yes tax offices around the world do love to know how much us businesses make, so they can tax us, that is true.

However, the main reason to do the books is for you.

You need to know how much, you can take out and go party on.

Or more seriously, making business decisions without know your figures, is a bit like wandering around in the dark.

So I have created this very simple way of doing your books and starting your book keeping journey.

It is aimed at home based businesses, one person businesses, who are just starting out. Or perhaps have started their business but got a bit behind with their book keeping!

It is 5 very short videos, we do Book keeping Explained, we deal with your Money In, your Money Out, Bringing it All Together and the top Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).

In fact you can actually do your books whilst you watch the video.

All you need is a piece of paper and a pen.
So do you want to start your book keeping journey now?

Click PayPal link below and pay, and I will take you to the videos.

Or go to my website Jenny Bracelin

Either way, I wish you every success with your business, thank you for watching.

Here’s how to pay and have your book keeping up and running in under 15 minutes for just £25.


Disclaimer: Only take advice that is useful!


The Best Feng Shui Tip for Money

Welcome to the best Feng Shui Tip for money.

So here I am in my home office.

What I notice is, when I go to clients, often the money area of their office, or more generally their home or plot, tends to have clutter or undesirable objects in it.

So I thought I would show you today, where your money areas are, so if you just want to tidy or clean a little bit of your home, then this would be the area to do.

Here we are in my home office and I am standing with my back to door, if I just show you my door, so you can see my door is here.

Where your money area is: if you stand with your back to the door, then it is on your far left, it is your far left area.

So if we go round, so that is my left wall and then this is my money area, in the corner. So has you can probably see, I have a light there and a drum and it quite clean and clear.

That’s the thing you can do, look at the area of your money and see if it has things that represent you? The most often thing I find is a bin!

I don’t know why but people just naturally put their bins in the money area. So what you can do is take a cloth and give it quick wipe, or next time you are cleaning, pull everything out and hoover (vacuum) behind it and just give it a bit of a clean and that spruces it up.

So that is my top tip, just spend a couple of minutes tidying your money area of your office particularly or your home or your plot, on a larger scale, which is the far left part of your home.
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How to Set Money Goals You Can Actually Achieve

How to set simple money goals you can actually achieve.

So in our house, if we achieve our money goals plus a little bit extra, then we get a take-away, otherwise we have to cook.

Take-aways might not be your reward but actually giving yourself free or low cost rewards on a regular basis is extremely motivating.

If you work for yourself and don’t have a boss, then no one else is going to give them to you and you need to do them for yourself.

So today we are talking about goal setting and whether you call it dreams, promises, targets, whatever, it doesn’t really matter.   What we are talking about today, is setting a simple weekly goal.

A simple weekly goal that is achievable, possible but just a little bit of stretch.
Just a little bit of stretch so you can achieve it.

For example

  • If you are just starting up setting the amount of a client, the monetary amount of one client a week is probably enough.
  • Or if you sell products and you are selling 10 a week, make it 12.
  • Often it is about consistency and achieving that money target, week in week out and when you do you get that little reward.

So why do it that way?  I know that you might think, I can set that target but that’s not enough but actually you need to start somewhere.  Starting now with a weekly target builds that money goal achieving muscle. Plus it puts you in a really positive frame of mind and when you are feeling positive about money, that makes a huge difference.  You can change it in the future if you want, well you hopefully will once you go through those targets.

Think about it on a Friday night, or Friday you are thinking, oh I haven’t quite reached my goal and it can be quite fun thinking how am I going to reach my goal and the satisfaction of achieving it. Or if you have had a really good week, having the afternoon off and enjoying yourself.

So if you would like to talk about setting your money goal, you can book an appointment with me for a 121 consultation either via Facebook or my website

Thank you for watching.